You’ve Heard This Before
A great deal has been written about this subject and that is exactly the reason I write about it now. The reason so many people have written about the subject is dead simple, virtually everyone is affected by it. How much we care about what others think, affects us in many ways. In this post I want to show you how your life will improve if you care less about other people’s opinion.
Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.
Katherine Mansfield – Katherine Mansfield: A Darker View
Our Social Nature
As you very well know, it isn’t always easy to not care what people think about you. The irony is that our interaction with other people has the side effect that we do care what they think. However, I will do my utmost best to convince you to try and care less about other people’s opinions, especially their opinions about you.
Let’s Be Honest
I was always told that it is important to forgive and look at a person’s strengths instead of their flaws. While this is perfectly true (something I will discuss in an upcoming post), most of us are focused on people’s flaws, at least to some extent. Don’t get me wrong, this is natural as it is a form of protection. If you know what a person’s shortcomings are, you know what to expect (and not expect) from that person. However, the opposite is also true and liberating: if you know a person’s strenghts, you get a peek at the beauty that’s inside that person, the beauty that all of us characterizes.
Why Should I Not Care?
Some People Never Change
What Is Suffering?
Have you ever asked yourself what it is that makes you unhappy? What is it that makes you suffer? Why do you suffer? What triggers suffering? These questions might sound philosophical or too spiritual for your liking, but if you take the time to think about these questions you’ll notice that they are immensely important if you want to find lasting happiness. Why? Suffering is what keeps us from being happy. In other words, it is important to know what that road block, suffering, is and how to find your way around it to find happiness.
Suffering Is Part Of Our Conditioning
Welcome My name is Bart and today is a somewhat special for me. Today, I launch “Wake Up and Start Living”, my blog about finding happiness. I have been thinking about starting a blog for several years now and have finally made the decision to actually do just that. It is hard to put into words how excited I am about this project. My energy levels have been through the roof the past few days.
You can read more about me and my blog in the “about” section. In this first post, though, I want to tell you a bit about what drove me to start this blog and why it took me such a long time.
Finding happiness has been a constant in my life since I was sixteen, I am now in my late twenties, to give you an idea. Even though I do not claim to have found the answer to the question “How do I find happiness?”, I have learned some important lessons. The past two years, in particular, have been so instrumental for me that I have now come to a point in my life that I am almost constantly happy. With “happy”, I don’t mean that I am smiling all the time and skipping on my way to work. The kind of happiness I’m talking about is this subtle stream of peace and balance that flows through your body and life.
When I hear people talk about a change in their lives, it always strikes me how different people think about themselves. The two extremes are easy to notice. On the one hand, I meet people close to being perfect, but relentlessly striving to further improve themselves. On the other hand, I come across people who think they are perfect, but … you know what I mean ;-) .
I think it’s not necessary to change, if you genuinely are happy with every aspect of yourself. Read that sentence again. What I just said is critical, because most people are not happy with who they are or with the way they live their lives. If you are unhappy with a certain aspect of your live, then you have two options, accept it or change it.
How we feel about the work we do or the ventures we’re involved in, can have a tremendous impact on our happiness and the quality of our life. I write about this quite a bit on Wake Up and Start Living, simply because most of us spend about eight hours a day doing just that, working. Today, I’d like to talk about being excellent in what you do and how it can improve the quality of your life. Let’s dive right in.
You Have What It Takes
First of all, allow me to remind you that you have what it takes to achieve your goals and dreams. I’ll go even further by saying that I am convinced that you have what it takes even though most of us have never met in real life. Why am I saying this? Part of the reason I can get excited about other people’s projects, ideas, and goals is because I see the potential in these people when they talk about their goals and dreams. People enthusiastic about their goals and dreams emanate that enthusiasm and energy, you can see the potential in their eyes. These people, every one of you, are the foundation to success and excellence.